Celebrate Your Dark Place

girl-praying2It’s funny how we tend to get frustrated and anxious when nothing seems to be working in our lives.

When there appears to be illusions of darkness all around us. We struggle in our finances, we continue to have relationship issues, job issues or our businesses are underperforming and failing. Sometimes it feels like we”re walking around with a dark cloud over our lives.

I can relate to these scenarios because at one time in my life, these were my experiences as well. I often felt like my life was one big curse. In fact, I even said it a time or two. Until one day, I had an epiphany as to why my life seemed to be one long dark road.

What I came to understand was that my dark experiences were really times of intense growth, expansion and transformation in my life. They were not necessarily a bad thing, in spite of the pain, frustration and anxiety I had experienced. They were all necessary parts of my journey.

Imagine for a moment, a flower seed? When the seed is planted in the ground, it’s covered with dirt. There’s darkness all around it. But the darkness is providing that seed  the necessary nourishment for it to eventually grow into a beautiful flower.  Another dark place is a mother’s  womb. We’ve all been there one time in our lives. It’s dark, yet it’s equipped to provide the baby everything he/she needs to grow and become strong.  Then there’s the cocoon, another dark place where the caterpillar enters and exits as a beautiful butterfly. Within the dark cocoon, a radial transformation takes place and end result is something magnificent.

So in the midst of what you think is a dark place, I recommend you shift  your perspective by asking yourself, “what has this come to offer me?” What is the gift that I’m to receive while here? Listen quietly, allow your heart to remain open and begin to embrace the gift.

Life is set up for you to win, even when it appears that you’re not. When we shift our thinking from victimization to victorious and understand the  power of  our dark places to transform our lives, will begin to expand in ways we’ve never before.

The one thing that our dark places all have in common is an expiration date. That’s correct, you dark places are only meant to last for a short period of time.  They have an end. They are not here to stay. Our job is to stop resisting and begin to flow. So the next time you find yourself in a dark place in your life, celebrate because the best is yet to come.

Step Away From the Pack

j0439542When I began my path of personal growth, one of the things I had to do was to step away from the pack. In order for me to gain control of my life and my destiny, I had to move away from the loudness of everyone else’s voice, so I could hear the whispers of God’s Voice. 

Moving away from the group or the tribe can be a difficult transition, but a necessary one. It can become difficult because when you move from being a willing and obedient member of the pack, you risk being labeled as a rebel. But the move is necessary when you are ready to answer the call and assignment placed on your life.  

We have been trained to believe that conformity is right and individualism is wrong. But at what point are you willing to release your fear of being unique and different? It is when we step away from the group that we find our real authentic self, our power and we become open to new possibilities. 

In order to create the kind of change that will bring about a better world for all of us, we must step away from the pack to discover new ways of doing things.  We must ask the hard questions, we must become adventurous and daring. It is when we make these new discoveries and find the new answers that we can share with the rest of the world; we will learn that together we can all create lasting change. 

Martin Luther King was not afraid, Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela were not afraid. Ghandi was not afraid, Oprah was not afraid, Obama was not afraid and Jesus certainly was not afraid.  What are you waiting on? Stop waiting on other people’s approval; quit vying to be accepted or popular. It takes courage to step away from the pack and shift into becoming a leader of the pack. 

A new era is approaching and we need leaders to rise up and dare to be different and unique. Risk the labels if you must, risk being an outsider if you will, but do what is necessary and everyone will benefit. Because in doing so, not only will you have shifted from being a member of the pack, you have now become their leader and their servant. A servant leader is not a rebel, but a rare breed! Now that’s what I called daring to be different.