A Nasty Little Word Part 2

I hope you were able to answer the questions from Part 1 of this series. Understanding that Procrastination can keep you from living your dreams should be enough to motivate you to stop doing it. But often times it’s not.  Because until we find out the driving force behind why we procrastinate, we will continue on this up and down roller coaster.

Anthony Robbins says, “Every person on this earth is driven by two forces: Their need to avoid pain and their desire to gain pleasure.”  These two forces drive all human behavior.  So if everything we do in life is out of avoiding pain or gaining pleasure, which one motivates you?

I have another perspective. There are times when we don’t fear pain, but we fear pleasure. I realized that I was literally afraid of the pleasure.

Growing up as a fatherless daughter created enormous pain in my life. As crazy as it sounds, I had become comfortable in pain. It was the good times that I was afraid of because I didn’t believe it would last. Little did I know that this erroneous belief was causing me to delay much of my good in life through procrastination.

What I realized was I could not “will power” my way out of procrastination. And neither can you. You’ve got to get to the root cause of why you do it in the first place. Once you do this and learn the skills to heal it, transform it and transcend it, you will breakthrough it.

I want to share a four steps to help you on your way to getting that nasty little word in your life:

1. Identify what you are afraid of. Is it the need to avoid pain or is it the fear of pleasure?

2. Find out where this controlling belief was first received. I was able to retrace my belief from my fatherlessness experiences.

3. Dismantle the belief and create another one. There are many ways to let go or deconstruct a belief. I will share just one here. Affirmations are great ways to change an old belief and create a new one. Example: “I am worthy of living my dream and I no longer delay my good.”

4. Find an accountability Partner. Breaking through procrastination can be challenging and I don’t recommend you doing it alone. Find a coach or mentor  who will hold you accountable for what you say you’re going to do.

You deserve to live your dreams. Never allow the fear of pain to keep you from doing anything. Because pain is inevitable in life, but suffering is choice. Pain is a part of the human journey. But you can move through pain and not allow it to prevent you from living your dreams though procrastination.

The pleasure that comes from taking action will far out weigh any pain you’ve avoided. Get accustom  to the pleasures of life. Because when you finally remove that nasty little word from your life, pleasure becomes inevitable.

A Nasty Little Word: Part 1

There’s a nasty little word that we women don’t often like to talk about or think about. It’s a word that has prevented us from living up to our full potential. It’s a word that halts many of our dreams.

 

We are fully aware of this word being actualized in our lives.  Yet, for some reason we can’t seem to let it go.

 

That little nasty word is “Procrastination!” Ouch! I hate the way that word even feels!

 

Because I used to be caught up in that world of Procrastination and it created so many barriers between me and my dreams. It’s a miserable thing to want something, to know how to get it and then turn around and never go get it or do it. You feel me?

 

We all have the ability to go after the things we want, but why don’t we? Why do we keep putting things off? We say things like, “I will start my diet on Monday.” “I’m going to start saving money next month.” Oh, oh, here’s the big one, “2018 is going to be my year.”

 

Then we turn around and keep doing the same things we did in 2017. We’ve not taken any new actions or made any new choices.  Yet, we know for sure this year will be different. Right? No. 2018  will not be any different from 2017 different until you do somethings differently.

 

Ask yourself these questions, “Why is it that I know what to do, but I can’t seem to do it? Why do I keep putting things off? Why do I procrastinate? Take a moment and look at these the questions. Then answer them. Write your answers down on paper or in your IPad/tablet.

 

Now, if you’re courageous enough, share your answers below in the comment box. Then stay tune for Part 2 of this Dream-Snatchers Series where I will share with you how you can release this little nasty word from your vocabulary and stop it from negatively impacting your life.

 

Share your answers below.