Becoming Irresistible on Valentine’s Day!

AEB89D15E4CB4499AD50194C6255296E.ashxI remember when I was a divorced, young mother of three children on Valentine’s Day. It was a horrible time, as I would witness all of my friends receiving flowers at work and getting ready for an evening of dinner and love. Some of my single friends and I would joke and tease each other about not wanting to leave the house on that evening.

It wasn’t so much that I wanted someone to send me flowers or take me out to dinner, it was that no one seemed to WANT to. My pain originated from a deep place of not feeling lovable. I thought perhaps I wasn’t thin enough, pretty enough, sexy enough or even good enough. I remember my loneliness feeling like a deep ache in my body. I would actually roll from side to side in my bed and moan from that relentless agony of loneliness.

It wasn’t until I was ready to stop playing the victim and feeling sorry for myself, that my life took a turn. The next year, I found myself  lonely,  once again. But this time, I choose not to be alone. Some of my single friends and I, men included, decided to watch movies and eat pizza at my house. We had the best time. We joked about not having dates, but saving money on gifts we didn’t have to buy. We also cried about lost love and how to get stronger by supporting each other. It was a great time. Not the alternative I desired, but at least I wasn’t alone.  Still lonely, but not alone. At least that’s what I told myself.

Often times, life will show up to teach us many lessons. As I began to embrace my singleness, I also began to understand the difference between being alone and lonely. Being alone was a temporary state of being that I chose, to reflect, renew and revive myself and my life. Being lonely was a state of being that I allowed to choose me, and create suffering and struggle.

As I embraced my time alone time, it became a beautiful space of  learning and recognizing my many incredibly lovable traits. This is where I began to develop my “Love Rekindled” Program, that I teach men and women from around the world. As I began to actualize the principles in this result based program, I started to awakened within me, the true authentic woman. And I began to fall in love with who I was become…or shall I say who was emerging within me.

As I began to actualize this process of rekindling the love within me, the magic happened. I became irresistible. True self love will radiate from you like a magnet and it will attract back to you the same thing in your life.

By the time Valentine’s Day came around the next year, I received three different dozens of flowers delivered to my home and office. I received beautiful gifts, dinner, dancing and a lot of laughter. I actually had 3 different dates on the same Valentine’s Day. Lunch with the first one, dinner with the second one, and dancing with the last one. And yes, they all knew about each other. I wasn’t actually in a relationship with anyone. These were simply amazing men, I had met, who were trying to get my attention. As Steve Harvey says, “let them work for you.” You are worth the effort.

I did not go after these results. My only goal was to release the painful experience of loneliness. My goal wasn’t to have a date for Valentine’s Day. I simply wanted to be free from the feeling of not being lovable. It was about an internal shift, of how I viewed and loved myself.

I actually married one of those incredible me, that same year. He’s my love and I am his. Together, we have a wonderful life.

If you are alone this Valentine’s Day or if your relationships is not what you truly would like it to be, I want to encourage you to do something different. Begin by choosing YOU. Because, not only is love possible for you, it’s inevitable. Your love story must begin with YOU!

What will you do different this year? Please leave your comment below:

I Love You…

I love you! At the right time, in the right place, these three little words can literally change your life–when spoken by the right person.
Some women search a lifetime just to hear these words spoken from someone with an authentic heart. Yet for others, the  question still remains, “will I ever find real love?”
I believe not only is love possible for every woman, it is inevitable. If we only knew how to make love work. I personally don’t believe that there are any shortages of available, loving men ready to unite with a soul mate, but I do believe there a many women who are not clear on what they want and how to get what they want.
In a nutshell, many women are doing everything in their power to push love out of their lives, and don’t even realize it. In my coaching program, I have coached many of my clients to finding true love, but there were some things they needed to actualize in order to begin attracting love into their lives.

Below are  three things you can do right now to begin making love work.

  1.  Focus on relaxing your control, become more flexible and sensitive to your partner. Often time women become very rigid in their relationships by holding back and detaching emotionally for fear of being dominated by their man. But it’s when we move from a place of fear into a place of love and generosity that we can experience real connections with our partners.
  2.  Initiate closeness by sharing your feelings more. Many women, who are successful, tend to avoid real intimacy by staying busy for fear of rejection. Make room in your schedule and spend quality time with your mate to create a space for openness, care and real love. By doing so, you will come to realize that connecting and giving your love does not lead to rejection.
  3.  Be willing to learn something new. Many times we become locked in an old paradigm of thinking that’s producing the problems in our relationship. Perhaps it’s time that you make a shift into identifying those limiting patterns that are keeping your life stuck. Hiring a life coach or mentor to help you learn to live from a new feminine power base would be a great asset.

 

Our real worth and our real power are not in our material power or success; it is in our feminine authentic self. A real man is not hard to find…but a real woman might be.

And remember, live authentically, laugh everyday and embrace love as a lifestyle! Because success really does begin with love.

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