by Apatterson | Apr 24, 2018 | Personal Growth
Life can be difficult sometimes. To say the least, mine seemed to have taken a road that I was not prepared for.
Losing my mom suddenly 8 months ago, was like a sucker punch in my soul. I truly didn’t know if I would ever breathe again, let alone smile. But I did.
Then in February, my beautiful sister-in-law passed away. I watched my brother, Robert, struggle with his sadness. How do you wrapped your brain around losing your mother and your wife.
You would think this was all. But it wasn’t. Because on April 13th, we loss my dear brother Clifford. Clifford was my rock, my safe space, my friend and in a lot a ways, my father.
I would be lying if I told you that I was not broken hearted, deeply sadden and in a lot of pain. I could never have predicted the events that have taken place in my life over these last 8 months.
What do you do when you’re unprepared for loss and feel so unequipped for this season in your life?
I did a Facebook Live on yesterday about how I am dealing with such tragic losses.
My 5 Steps to Dealing w/ Loss!
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by Apatterson | Feb 3, 2015 | Personal Growth, Vision
“You Have The Power to Change Your Life.”
For many, this statement is nothing new. You’ve heard leaders speak these words from stages all across the world. Yet, for many folks, they still have not been able to actualize and make this statement a reality for themselves.
Now, you’re probably thinking, “Angela, if I have the power to change my life, why hasn’t anything changed yet?” I feel you. Because there was a time in my life when I felt the same way. It appeared that nothing I did was working. I tried everything. I read books, I attended workshops, I prayed, meditated and did my affirmations. Yet, my life continued on an up and down roller coaster of pain and struggle. I simply could not experience any consistency, success or joy in my life and business.
It wasn’t until I applied these 3 simple steps, that my life began to unfold and open in ways I could never have imagined.
I want to share these three steps with you:
1. Awaken to Truth. The truth, I didn’t know who I was. For years, I’d lived my life based on who I was conditioned and programmed to be, instead of who I was born to be. As I began to retrace my life beyond my mother’s womb, I discovered that I was not broken, damaged or needed to be fixed. It’s important to know that your pain will never heal, until you heal your misplaced sense of identity. I began to rise to the image of who God said I was. I began to truly understand that I was a perfect image in the mind of God and that perfection didn’t need to be improved. There were some key processes and techniques that I developed in order to download this truth into my system, into my being, in order for me to grasped this reality. When I captured the “Who I am” deep within me, my patterns of thoughts and behaviors began to shift into that reality. My life took on a newness and that’s when the magic happened.
2. Open Your Heart. Your heart is the entrance to your truth. It’s about moving beyond the fear and the pain that caused your heart to close in the first place. I know this can be one of the most difficult things to do. Because when you open your heart again, you run the risk of being hurt again. Yet, pain is part of the human experience and you can’t spend your life trying to avoid it. When you resist something, or force something, you create more struggle and suffering in your life. Stop avoiding pain, because it’s inevitable. Suffering is a choice. There’s away to move through pain without the struggle and suffering. As I learned how to do this, I was able to move deeper into that space of my real truth. My world expanded and my life was never the same.
3. Change the world. You cannot awaken to truth and open your heart without sensing there’s more. Your desire to make a difference in the lives of others will begin to burn in your belly. It will become undeniable and you will have to take the leap. Leap into your life’s mission, your purpose and your dreams. As you step into your purpose filled life, you will begin to seek out ways to help others and make a real difference in the world. You realize this is why you are here in the first place. You’re here to make a contribution of your gifts and your talents to the world. You become the change, you wish to see in the world.
The above three steps are the basic philosophy in which I live each day. It is my hope that you begin to adopt them as part of your daily living as well. As you do, simply watch your life change. Because Truth, an Open Heart and Contribution are all the gateways to your true POWER!
I’m here for YOU!
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