What I Really Want
Many women spend a lot of time in their busyness. We multi-task all day long. We work, we cook, we clean, we play taxi, we play nurse, we plan mom, we play sexy woman, and so much more. If you’re a business woman, it’s even more challenging because building a business brand can keep you busy almost 24/7.
We can’t possibly keep up this pace without something starting to give way. If it’s not our relationships, it’s our business. If it’s not our business, it’s our health. When you are under this kind of fast paced routines, it places a lot of stress on your mind and your body. The human body was not designed to be placed under stress for long periods of time. The American Medical Association has stated that 98% of all diseases are derived from stress.
For years, I kept up a face paced life. I thought it was the only way to become successful. I had become so accustomed to this pace that it was normal to me. If I slowed down, I would feel as if I wasn’t being productive. But I began to realize that busyness didn’t mean being productive. Busyness created a lot of stress in my body and it was starting to have an impact.
One day, I sat down and asked myself as question that had be posed to me several times, “What do you want?” A simple question, but for many it’s one that can’t be readily answered. Why? Because so many women are busy creating their lives based on other people’s version of what it is supposed to be. I know for sure that’s what I was doing. I only came to know this when I slowed it down, went deeper within myself and told the truth to myself.
As I began to answer this question, my answers surprised me. I didn’t want many of the ideas, goals and dreams that I had for years. They simply didn’t mean as much any more. My passion for them had been lost. It wasn’t a bad thing. I had changed and transformed so much of my internal landscape that my desires had also changed. But I never would have known this had I not slowed it down to seek my Awakened Truth. I would have still been going at lightening speed chasing something that I simply didn’t want any longer and no longer served me.
What I did want was a life with more meaning. I wanted each day to be fulfilling, fun and free. I wanted to make quiet business moves and make money…but more importantly, I wanted to make memories with my family and friends. And while I love vacationing to wonderful places, I also love the intimate times that I spend with my family and friends simply talking and laughing over a home cooked meal or a glass of wine. I enjoy spending time with my amazing husband talking about things that makes my heart smile and laughing so hard that I sometimes pee in my panties. I love getting on the floor with my grand babies playing and singing. It’s these kind of things that makes my heart sing. Yet, I also love teaching women how to live the Awakened Life…how to navigate through the Divine Ache™ and how to answer and advance their next level calling. I love helping fatherless daughter women move beyond the pain of fatherlessness. I simply found a better more impactful way to do it without the constant busyness and overwhelm. In a nutshell, I took my life back and reclaimed my time. I got my happy back and I’m never giving it up again.
What do you really want? Is it the life that you are currently living? Or have you taken a moment to get clear about what’s really important to you in this season of your life? One thing that I have learned is that life is fragile and it’s can seem so short. I don’t want to miss it. I don’t want my life to pass me by and one day I look up and wonder what happened. It’s about me living intentionally and getting out of the rat race, the chase, the hamster wheel and slowing it down to a pace that’s gives me joy.
I want to encourage you to take a moment this week and really look at what you want. Take inventory of your life. What’s important to you in this season? Is it a way for you to live your dreams and still be present with those you love? What about you, what do you really want?