Over the past few months, I have been having conversations with lots of women around the globe. It seems as if many women are living lives that are not what they really want. They are truly unhappy where they are. They are frustrated, hurt and even depressed. Many don’t even know that they are depressed.

There was a time when I would sit and listen to their “sad love songs” and cry along with them. But in a world where we have so many big issues that must be addressed, we cannot afford to sit and let life defeat us any longer. We’ve got to do something.

At some point you’ve got to decide that “It” is not working and do something different. You can’t keep pretending the glass is half full and not notice that it’s half full of dirty water. If you want things to change…you have to change. For things to get better, you have to get better. Stop living someone else’s version of what your life is supposed to look like. Get clear about where you are and where you want to be. Then find the right path for you to take to get there.

So here’s where we oftentimes miss it. You think you can craft this new path with the same mindset that created the one you’re on right now. And if you do, guess what? You will end up right here again. Because nothing has changed. Everything you want that you don’t already have, lies outside of the realm of what you already know. You have to create the space for newness: You need a supporting cast…a mentor/coach and a new expanded mindset. In other words…get some help…but the right kind of help.

An acorn is not an acorn. It’s an oak tree. But only when you plant the acorn in the right environment: the dirt. And meet the proper conditions…sunlight and water…will it automatically become an oak tree. So it is with your life. Your life works to the extinct that you align it with the spiritual and universal laws that governs it. You merely have to know the laws and align with them.

Just like your heart is designed to pump blood, so is your life designed to work. So now what will you do? There’s no time to be the victim. We don’t have time to lick our wounds anymore. We’ve got work to do in the world.

We big issues and it will take all of us to make it better. So, you got to pick yourself up, dry those tears, lift up your head, square your shoulders back, forgive and heal. Then do something. Grow up. Wake up. Get up. Now that you know, you can’t pretend that you don’t.