by Apatterson | Oct 21, 2020 | Personal Growth, Relationships
We are all living in a world where there is so much chaos, confusion and fear. I think we all are exhausted, looking for ways to escape. Is escaping the answer? It’s a question we each must answer.
You’ve heard me say that what’s happening within our midst will reveal who we really are. I now believe what’s happening within our midst is a reflection of who we have become collectively.
Many people are showing themselves to us in ways that we find difficult to accept. It’s easy to get on social media, get into intense debates with each other and show ugly sides of ourselves to the world. The world gets to see our wounds loud and clear.
But what’s even more dangerous are those of us who get up in the morning and read a passage of scripture, say a few words of prayer, then jump on social media to share our newfound wisdom while still carrying deep muted, unacknowledged and unresolved wounds.
We run successful businesses, make great money, have plenty of friends and become popular, all while avoiding our real internal issues, challenges and pains that show up in ways that have us blinded us to the truth.
You see, hiding and side-stepping the truth can be seductive and deceptive. Because it frees us from dealing with our shame, our truth, and our pain lodged in our souls. So we take the path of least resistance.
For some, there’s a knowing that we still have deeper issues that remain untouched, ignored and unhealed. For others, we’ve learned how to dodge and side-step the truth that our soul is crying out through our false sense of spirituality.
Our need to be applauded and significant drown out the deep whispers that urge us to do the real healing work on ourselves. In the midst of these arising times that humanity is now facing, it’s easy to blurt out phrases like, “God will fix it, It’s happening for a reason or We are living in the last days” all to make us feel better and temporarily escape.
Yet, if things are going to change, we’ve got to change. If things are going to get better, we each must get better. This must happen regardless of who is in the White House. Because at a deeper level and collectively, the world is reflecting back to us who we (humanity) have become at our core.
Why is it so important that our wounds heal? Because it’s our wounds that keep us divided and separated. Our wounds keep us hating instead of loving. They keep us bitter instead of forgiving and our wounds keep us bound instead of free.
Yes, this is a wake us call for us all. The alarm is sounding. And if we are going to heal collectively, it must start with each of us individually. Individually we must brave the uncharted waters of our soul to swim deeply into our wounds, to truly heal what we’ve been so good at side-stepping because it was just too painful to feel.
The truth is, God can and will heal our land. Yet, we must acknowledge we have wounds that need to be healed. The healing of our individual souls is how we heal the soul of humanity. And it starts with each of us acknowledging the truth about who we have become and the truth about WHO WE CAN BE!
by Apatterson | Aug 14, 2020 | Personal Growth, Relationships
I don’t have to tell you about all that’s happening around us and within our midst. You see it everyday with the constant news cycles, social media’s chaos, confusion and conflict. And if you haven’t been living under a rock, you know someone who has been impacted by COVID-19, job loss, racial and gender inequality, financial struggles and more. We are definitely in a crisis.
So how do we live in a world filled with such panic and fear? I know I have felt it. I feel it each time I have to leave my house with my Pandemic Kit (mask, gloves, sanitizer, disinfectant wipes).
As I look at everyone walking around with a mask on and trying not to make eye or physical contact with me, I feel such a sadness come over me. Because as humans, we are made for connection, touch and belonging. I sometimes sense feelings of loneliness trying to creep in because I’m so isolated from the world.
Nothing is the same anymore and neither are we. We can’t be. This has certainly changed us all in some way. It has also revealed who we are and who we can become as result of this crisis.
I take hope in recognizing that crisis always proceeds transformation. I also take hope in knowing that better days are upon us.And I know that there’s always a rainbow…not just after the storm, but even in the midst of one.
Recently, I sat down to look for the rainbows in my life during these arising times. What I found was simply amazing because I discovered several rainbows that I want to share with you.
Here’s what I discovered:
Rainbow 1: Releasing Excess. I don’t need as much material things that I thought I did. As I started clearing and cleaning out closets, cabinets, attics and more, I realized that I had too much excess. I was holding onto things that I needed to let go of and would never use again. Who needs 15 pair of black pants or dishes that you haven’t used in 25 years? As I began getting rid of “stuff” I felt a sense of freedom and release.
Rainbow 2: Cherishing the Moments. I love hearing my children and grandchildren voices. Because of COVID-19, our children have limited their visits to our home. They say it’s because we are in the elderly population. LOL. Therefore, we don’t get to see them or our grandchildren like we are accustomed to. But they all make every effort to make sure we get to visit with the grands via phone and Face-time. I find myself being more tuned into these visits. Because for me, every moment, every second has become even precious. Sometimes our FaceTime visits can last for two hours. I know that when I can get to hug and kiss them again, I will never take these moments for granted again.
Rainbow 3: Reconnecting w/ Old Friends. I have had a chance to catch up with old friends. Because things have slowed down, we have more time on our hands. We were all moving at lightening speed and had little time for important things. Lately, I have reconnected with friends I have not talked with in years. It’s been so refreshing to talk with them and reconnect. I have even reconnected with some elementary school friends. Just the other day an old friend and I talked for 4 hours! We laughed and had a blast!
Rainbow 4: A Deepened Spiritual Life. I have always made my spiritual walk and life a priority. But during these past few months, I’ve made an even new effort to practice the power of “Surrender.” Surrendering to God has been my biggest priority and allowing God’s desire for my life to be mine. Aligning with the spiritual and universal principles that governs our lives is my daily intention. I don’t always get it right, but my heart is turned towards God’s highest desire and intentions for my life. I’ve released some things that thought I wanted only to tap into God’s ordained destiny for me. I can’t tell you how freeing it is to know that I can’t change things, but as I surrender to God…I can change. I love my sacred times of prayer, meditation, worship, and listening. I’m more committed to this holy journey to unfold my soul’s destiny than ever before. In other words…to live an Awakened Life. My life reimagined and success redefined.
Rainbow 5: My Health is My Greatest Resource.
How often to we neglect our health going after money thinking it’s our most needed resource? I’ve learned that my health is my greatest resource and this it’s up to me to take care of it. I’m beginning to look at what I put in my mouth more intentionally because I have taken more time to cook better meals. I order my groceries and have them delivered therefore I can only eat what I have in the house…LOL. I’m starting to move my body more…walking, Tai Chi and Yoga have been my choices. I am not where I want to be right now, but I am on my way and lost 11 pounds. I check my vital signs daily and they are looking really good. I have also added some amazing supplements needed as I get older.
These are just a few of the rainbows that I have discovered as I navigate this new normal. There are so many more and if you’d like, I will share more in the coming weeks.
Also, I would love to hear some of your rainbow lessons. So please feel free to share them with us in the comment box below.
Until next time…stay safe and don’t forget to look for your rainbows.
by Apatterson | Jul 21, 2020 | Personal Growth, Relationships
It seems as if everywhere you turn, there’s news of Covid-19 cases getting worse, people losing their jobs, someone being killed at the hands of law enforcement, racism at an all time high, civil unrest, financial struggles and yes, death at alarming rates. I just want to turn it all off. And I did turn it all off.
I recently suspended my Facebook account, turned all the news channels off on the TV, stopped the breaking news alerts on my phone, and stopped accepting phone calls from negative people. I work shorter hours each day in my business, I am learning some new hobbies around the house, (still paining furniture and resigning rooms), decluttering and getting rid of tons of stuff.
I am reading tons of new books, listening to some great music, doing Tai Chi w/ my husband, going to bed really early, I have moved into a season of deeper prayer and meditation and yes, writing and creating new ideas.
I have loved being disconnected from all of the noise. This is a new lifestyle that I have adapted and I am loving it. I plan to keep it. While, I will reinstate my Facebook account, I will merely use that platform as a small part of fulfilling my purpose. It’s simply a vehicle to use for messaging…it’s not at all meant to consume your life.
We are living in some challenging times. Times many of us have never imagined would happen to us. But the truth is, crisis always proceeds transformation. And we all know the world is in need of transforming. As we are living in what is insurmountable uncertainty, there is always one thing that never fails and that is our hope in God’s promises.
I live with this hope everyday, knowing we will get through this. We may experience some loss and some pain…but we will get through this. I wish I had a crystal ball to tell you when it will all end. But I don’t. I also realize that we will always have unpredictables to show up. It’s how we respond to them that shows us who we are. What the world is going through collectively, will reveal who we are and it has revealed who we are.
If each of us take some time to work on expanding, releasing and growing in our own personal lives, then collectively we will be able to change the world. This is why we must become the change we want to see in the world. This entire season of uncertainty has revealed something to me about myself.
I didn’t realize that had certain biases. I didn’t realize that I would become angry about certain things. One of the reasons, I have turned it all off is so that I can deal with those internal aspects of myself that I’d ignored or not recognized. You see, I want to be apart of the solution. And when we don’t tell ourselves the truth about ourselves, we create a bigger problem trying to solve a problem. We then become the problem…not the solution.
Remember, an angry generation cannot create peace and a wounded generation cannot bring healing.
If we want to be a part of the solution, then each of us have got to face our own fears, anger and wounds. We can’t give to the world what we can’t give to ourselves. I can’t tell you how to deal with what’s happening around you. But I do know that we all must play an important role in driving the new narrative and rewriting a new cultural story for our own lives and for the world.
So what I will tell you is to get very clear about who you are in this season and what you can do to help move us in a new, better and brighter direction for our lives individually and collectively. It’s the hope we have being actualized in each of us.
And if it takes you turning it all off in order to get clear, I recommend doing so. Because when you come back…you will be ready to turn up…and Amplify!
by Apatterson | Jun 26, 2020 | Personal Growth, Relationships
Many don’t know your name. You don’t own a business, you don’t have a brand and you’re not a social media influencer. No one really recognizes you out in public.
BUT! What you do is needed by many. You empower and encourage others through the phone calls you make, the text messages you send out, the voicemails you leave. You do what appears to be small gestures, yet these things encourage others to stay the course and never give up. You know the right times to call, the right things to say and do. Through powerful conversations, you’ve talked many off the ledge, given others hope and healing through your prayers.
You give your time, your resources and your love for humanity. You never talk about what you do, you don’t post it on social media or boast about it, even to your closet friends. You never make a big deal out of it, you don’t post it on social media and never tell anyone the things that you do. So many benefit daily from the things you do in for them. Your moves are subtle and quiet, yet intentional.
Who are you? You are God’s chosen one…God’s mouthpiece in the world. You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. You are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works.
It’s in the those quiet moments, that you’ve even shed some tears, wanted to give up at times, but your commitment to God’s promises kept you going. You’ve held a place for everyone else to shine. But who is holding a space for you? The time has come for you to reap your rewards.
So I will close with what song writer has said and dedicate these words to you:
“Hang in there and prepare yourself for your blessing. It’s your time now. You have waited for so long. But you held on, you were strong. And for your faithfulness. It’s your time. Because you hung in there when times got hard. And when it seemed like nobody cared. You kept right on working. You kept right on doing good things. And for your faithfulness. And for your faithfulness, it’s your time. He told me to tell you, it’s your time.”– Lyrics from It’s Your Time by Luther Barnes.
by Apatterson | May 26, 2020 | Personal Growth, Relationships
Over the years, I have written and spoken on numerous of topics. Yet it never ceases to amaze me that the number one topic for most people is “
Love“. In almost every conversation, the subject of love seems to surfaces. It has become a
cultural obsession. Someone is trying either to find, keep or to get rid of what they thought was
true love; nevertheless, we remain obsessed with it.
Over the past few months, I’ve received an increased amount of emails, phone calls and text messages from men and women asking for my help. It appears that the pandemic has created some issues and problems in their love life. Many people are blaming our current circumstances as the reason for much of their relationships struggles and pains.
But you’ve heard me say that this pandemic will reveal who we really are and it’s happening in many relationships right now. Either it’s revealing the best part of us or it’s revealing the worst part of us.
Let’s face it. Relationships can be tough at times. And it can be even tougher during a Pandemic. Especially because most people have never been through a Pandemic before AND they’ve never been taught how to make love work.
We rush to find help on how to make a million bucks in our businesses, how to navigate social media, how to gain more clients, how to lose weight…and more “how to.” Yet, we rarely ask for help on “how to love,”
Someone taught you how to ride a bike, drive a car and tie your shoe. But WHO taught you how to love? Think about it.
Most of us learned how to love by what we saw modeled in front of us. And for most of us, that was dysfunctional. So if you’ve not learned the proper keys to making love work in regular times…how in the world will you manage to make love work during a pandemic? How do you navigate through the fears of this pandemic and economic down turn and keep your relationship good?
Many couples are experiencing some never before feelings as they are on lock down almost 24/7 with their beloved. Then others are having feelings of loneliness, abandonment and isolation because they haven’t been able to see their beloved in weeks/months, or they have no one at all in their life.
How do we live though what has been an unthinkable and terrifying experience without it having an impact on our personal relationships?
I want to share with you how we can do it. Over the years, I have coached numerous individuals and couples from around the world on how to create loving and successful committed relationships and marriages. I’ve studied from some of the world’s best relationship gurus and experts. I’ve also learned from my own personal experiences. Combining science, spirituality, wisdom, research and some good old common sense, I created one of my most powerful result driven workshops on love. And now I am ready to share with you.
This is an invitation for you to join and others on June 8th at 2PM EST for my “Making Love Work Through a Pandemic Virtual Workshop.
Whether you’re married, single, divorced, widowed or it’s complicated…this virtual workshop is just for you. Love is supposed to be good…it’s supposed to promote growth, expansion and elevation in the lives of those involved. Love is supposed to make us better.
And it can, when we learn the keys and gain the skills to overcome the barriers, blocks and beliefs that keep us on the up and down love roller coaster.
Join me for a up close and personal look into the dynamics of how to make love work during a pandemic.
Enroll Now! by Apatterson | May 13, 2020 | Personal Growth, Vision
The truth is, we are all facing some frightening and unpredictable times. Our world has been rocked by fear and economic uncertainty. Fear has been let loose in the land and people are starting to panic.
It’s no wonder that stress is at an all time high. With losing loved ones to Covid-19, little job security, living in isolation and being bombarded by news with more tragedies, uncertainties and more losses to come, how do we even breathe?
This world is definitely in a crisis and from all of the predictions, we are going to be dealing with this for a long time. At least this is what’s being told to us.
But consider this truth. When an infectious idea begins to spread, it changes our behavior and our beliefs when a critical mass number of people adapt it. I see this happening in the world where we have started to believe more in the doom and gloom, in a dim future and the unthinkable predictions that we hear daily. And while we should pay attention to the warnings and safe guard ourselves, we cannot allow these fearful statements to change who we are.
It’s been said that we become what we believe and what we believe dictates our thoughts, conversations, choices, decisions and behaviors. It becomes our new identity and identity dictates everything in our lives.
What we are witnessing in our midst is a sheer case of “Identity Theft.” We have allowed the 24/7 news cycles, social media and voices to bombard our minds and steal the truth of who we are and what’s really possible for us. When this happens, we forget how powerful we are.
When this infectious idea begins to spread, it changes us and we become the very thing we fear…fearful! We cannot allow this to happen. Because our future depends on us. What’s happening in our world should shift us, expand us and make us better. And it should not take away our ability to be the powerful and amazing people we STILL are.
As we give up our true identity and begin to believe in a world that’s only filled with fear, pain and doubt, we relinquish our power, we panic and take on a false and mistaken identity. When this happens, we all lose. And we cannot allow this to happen.
Because the truth is, we are resilient people. We are people of power, purpose, truth and amazing strength. And regardless of what’s going on around us, we know how to fight, how to shift, how to pivot, how to reset, how to stand and how to WIN!
That’s who we are. We are not subject to anything, but to the POWER that lives on the inside of us. God created us to be more than conquerers, to rise up and to thrive. We cannot allow the outside negative noise to take away our true identity of people who were born to win, born to prosper, born to rise.
“You are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light” (1 Peter 2:9).
Covide 19 is real, but so is the Power of God to transcend time and space, to heal and to help us to flourish beyond these arising times. One thing that remains constant is our ability to stand tall in the face of this invisible enemy and declare that we are bigger than it…and together we will stand in our truth of who we are and in our infinite brilliance and possibility.
Take precaution and prepare when you go out like wearing your mask, social distancing and washing your hands. These are things we must do in the world right now. But doing these things should NEVER diminish or change WHO you are.
The airways are embedded with news and noise. Choose what you take in that will help you to navigate this new world. But throw away that which is trying to convince you that you are something other than WHO you really are.
Don’t you dare give up. Do not let this crisis steal your identity. Don’t you dare relinquish your truth, your power, your dreams, your ideas and your trust in God to get us through this…That’s who we are. Believe in the promises of God. Believe in the truth of who you are and what’s possible for your life.
We have been challenged with a case of Identity Theft and Mistaken Identity. Now it’s time to REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE…join me today as we all embark up our GREAT REMEMBERING. Be at ease in your strength and at rest in your POWER. Now ROAR!
