receive-hands“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”― Theodore Roosevelt

I heard this quote Sunday on Super Soul Sunday (OWN)…and I did the happy dance! This is to all of you women who are out there trying to do your best to fulfill your purpose and are coming under fire from those who ridicule, accuse, criticize, blame or bully you. While you may not always get it right or do it perfectly, at least you are in the game. So D.T.I.P. (Don’t Take It Personally) when your critics start running their mouths!!

Oh by the way..Oprah’s guest said “If you’re not in the arena getting your butt kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.“…OMG! I agree totally with that statement and I just love it! 

It doesn’t matter how evolved you are, there are times when you are wrongly accused and blamed by others, especially those you’ve tried to help, that it doesn’t feel good deep within. What your accusers don’t know is that it takes a lot of courage and a whole lot of moxy to not to just get in the game, but to stay in the game. 

Each time you submit a blog, stand in front of a crowd to speak or sing, release a new a book,  coach or serve a client, create a new product, launch a new program, you run the risk of being ridiculed, bullied, blamed, and even mocked. And yet, you still remain in the game. Why? Because it’s who you are and it’s because you are passionate about what you do.  And the real reason? Because you care and you do give a darn!

It’s not about the money…and it never has been. If it was about the money, I am sure you can find easy ways to earn money. It’s because you have an unquencheable fire in your belly to do what you do. It’s because you know somewhere deep inside you that this is what you were born to do. That’s why you endure the naysayers. This is why you stay the course when others speak ill of you and try to say how you could be doing it better. And of course you know you could be doing it better. We call can do it better and one day we all will. But until now, we will do what we can and that is enough because at least we are in the game.

Beautiful woman, hold you head of up high, square your shoulders back and swing those curvy hips just a little bit more. So what you don’t have degrees behind your name?  So what you have not had as much training and skill as the other woman? So what your website is not as extravagant and your business cards are plain? Stop comparing, because your heart is as big as the sky and you are on fire! People will travel miles to watch you burn!! And at least you are in the game…so just keep playing!!

If you happen to be one of the critics who tend to put others down for not doing as great of a job as you feel they should, stop it right now. Atone for it. Don’t blame yourself, just be aware of this behavior and change it. Ask for where you maybe able to offer help and then get in the game and be willing to take the risks and the hits in order to make a difference. That’s what real leaders do. Because at the end of the day, we all want the same thing. A world filled with love, joy, unity, abundance and peace! And it’s our job to make sure it happens. Isn’t it?