I am certain that you’ve heard the term “High Maintenance Woman.” In most cases it has been talked about in some very negative terms. Most women who are viewed as high maintenance have been frowned upon and made to appear vain, selfish and self-centered.


But I have a different opinion on this issue. I believe the most fascinating women are high maintenance. Think about this for a moment. The BEST things in life are high maintenance. The most beautiful homes, the most expensive cars are all high maintenance. Therefore, I believe it’s okay for you to be considered “high maintenance” as well.


But not in some vain kind of way. When you understand your value and worth, you will recognize that you deserve to give yourself the needed time, effort and attention to grow and blossom. You are worth the effort.


Often times, as women, we put ourselves last and on the back burner. Everyone else receives our attention and time, except us. We are last to eat dinner, we are last to go to bed at night, and we are the last to spend any extra money on ourselves.


When we organize our lives around everyone else, we are saying to the God that we are NOT worth the effort. That we are not as valuable as everyone else. In return, this mindset shows up in our lives as our experiences.


But as we return to our hearts and begin to hold a space for true self-love, forgiveness and non-judgment, we will start to give ourselves the attention we deserve. When you value something, you attend to it.


If you had an expensive dress, would you throw that dress in the washer? Absolutely not! You would carefully take it to the best cleaners in town to have it cleaned. Why? Because that dress has value to you and it is a high maintenance garment. It requires extra attention, time and effort. And so it is with you.


You are valuable and you are worth the effort, time and attention. Attending to your health, your personal, spiritual growth is your highest priority. How many times have you said no to a workshop, program, product or event that you so desperately wanted for yourself? And when you used the funds for something else or on someone else, such as children, husband, friends, how did it really make you feel deep within? Somewhere in your heart and in your body, you felt that you had cheated yourself. This is not the action of a woman who knows her own worth and value.


I want to encourage you to commit to putting yourself first by attending to the thing that matters to you the most…YOU! Taking care of yourself first, loving yourself first, giving to yourself first is the greatest gift you can give to your loved ones. So the next time someone ask if you are high maintenance, you answer with a resounding “YES I AM! I am worth the effort!”


Action Task: Why are you worth the effort? When are you not worth the effort? How can you begin to live from a space of loving yourself?