17962E40174442C997E58B56504AF2E9.ashxI often hear women say, “a good man is hard to find.” They also go on to say that it’s hard to find a man who’s comfortable with a powerful and successful woman. Some women tend to believe that men are often intimidated by their success. While I can perhaps understand this theory, I can’t say that I totally agree with it.

First of all, there are very few things that a man is afraid of and a woman is typically not one of them. There are numerous of successful and powerful women who are experiencing beautiful and loving relationships with men who adore, admire and love them.  And that’s because these women have discovered the hidden secret power to making love work.

As I began to explore a little deeper into this topic, I discovered several reasons why so many powerful and successful women are having a difficult time in finding and sustaining a harmonious relationship with a good man. But today, I will explore only one of them.

Over the last forty plus years, women have made great strides in the workplace and in our careers. We’ve experienced as much success as our male counterparts and in some cases we’ve even surpassed them. Of course we must celebrate these great achievements.

But somewhere during this expansion we have lost our sense of who we really are as women. We changed our clothes to imitate men in our tailored blue and black suits. We deepened our voices and tensed our faces so that we could be taken more seriously in meetings. We worked long tiring hours trying to prove ourselves and keep up the masculine pace. We wanted to be treated like one of the boys and when this didn’t happened, we often cried discrimination…and in many cases, we were right to do so.

We not only competed with the men, we became them. And while yes, we became what the world would deem as successful and powerful, yet for many of us, it was achieved at a great cost. In the midst of climbing the success ladder, we gave up who we really were… our true feminine powerful selves.

We took on the energetic vibration of men. Yet, women were never designed to digest testosterone.  We were tricked into believing that we had to do so.

Therefore,  when a “good man” did show up in our lives and he didn’t stay very long, we automatically assumed that he was intimidated by our success. But in reality, he came looking for a woman (feminine energy) and what he found was himself (masculine energy), disguised as a woman.

I do believe there maybe times when women need move into our masculine side in the workplace, yet it’s important to remember that only your feminine energy is the power that will attract and keep a “good man.” It’s not your masculine, material power or success that a good man is seeking, it’s the true power of the feminine energy that he so desires and needs. Your masculine side has no place in your relationships.

As a side note, it’s also important to understand that your designer low cut tops, short sexy skirts and red bottom shoes will not get you exactly what you are seeking either. Nor does dimming down and playing the victim or the damsel in distress. If these things worked,  millions of successful enterprising women wouldn’t still be lonely. This is not actualizing the authentic feminine power, it’s manipulation and trickery.

Internally is where your power resides.  Your true feminine power lies deep within and is expressed from a space of pure love and acceptance of yourself first. It’s about tapping into the flow of the truest, deepest feminine energy that radiates beneath the surface. It’s that magnetic power that would make you attractive no matter what size you are, your hair color or your age. Who we are as women does not make us weak, but very powerful.  This power does not intimidate…it‘s the kind of power that every baby, every man, every human being longs for. 

Finding a good man is more about “being” than it is about “doing.” The masculine is active, the feminine is passive, the masculine is dynamic, and the feminine is magnetic. The masculine does while the feminine IS. We want a good man, but we will never have one until we recognize and become the feminine women we were created to be. 

We can have success in the bedroom and the boardroom.  But only when we recognize and accept that our real worth and our real power is not external but internal.  A good man is not hard to find…but in many cases…a real woman can be.

What do you think?