Over the years, I’ve met so many people who are stuck and wondering when is my big break coming? When will I get that one phone call that takes me to my next level of greatness? While you recognize that you are perhaps already doing great work, you also sense that there’s yet another level you must go. So what’s the problem?
The problem is that we allow our defenses, excuses and justifiers to show up and get the best of us. I hear and see them all the time. They show up like this: “It won’t work, I’ve done it before and it didn’t work before, God wants me to go in another direction, I have no money, I can’t right now, been there, done that, can’t afford it, family comes first, not my time, my kids need me, my husband said no, I can do this myself, I don’t need any help, I don’t know enough, I have no time, they just want my money….and so much more.
Here’s the big one: “Let me pray about it?” Every time I hear that one, I wonder to myself, “Well, didn’t you pray about it before you called me?” LOL. Do you see yourself in any of the above? At some point, we’ve got to get rid of the excuses and justifiers. They keep us safe and they keep us comfortable. What automatic excuses do you have imprinted in your mind? What excuses justify your limitation?
I’m just asking because when I once used these justifiers, no one could tell me that I was wrong. And that’s the biggest clue that you are stuck in the limitation of excuses and justifiers. When everyone is wrong and you’re right. I even became resentful and angry at times when someone tried to talk me through my defenses. I simply thought they were not hearing me. But they were hearing…my excuses. We become our biggest enemy by justifying our own limitation.
At what point do give yourself permission to you say, “I’m going for it?” To ask yourself: “What am I afraid will happen if I really go for it?”
It’s a question that I had to ask myself and it was a question that I had to answer. My answers were all filled with Excuses and Justifiers. As I worked with my coach, over the years, to kick those excuses in the butt and flushed them out, I was able to move to my next level of infinite possibilities. And while I don’t always share the big business deals that I get to do, I am so grateful for this life I get to experience. The Awakened Life. I didn’t say by transformation was easy, but it was simple.
Oh yes, there were times that I resisted, yet my coach was there to help me overcome my fears and keep me from stalling. Do you find yourself stalling? I did for lengths of time and time wasted that I couldn’t get back.
I stalled by updating my website or re-creating a brochure or all of sudden I needed to clean out a closet or paint a room. Stalling can deceive you because it makes you believe and feel like you’re being productive or doing the right thing. But what’s really happening is that you are hiding because of your deep hidden undiscovered fears.
Notice a pattern here. When an opportunity comes your ways, so does a crisis. And then all of a sudden, you forgo or forget the opportunity to attend to the crisis. You’re so exhausted and wiped out emotionally, physically or even financially from the crisis that the opportunity is no longer appealing to you anymore. It’s call sabotage. Your internal fears sabotaged your opportunity. It’s designed that way to keep you in the same space. But you don’t have to continue to live that life. You can overcome and breakthrough these patterns of beliefs that keep you on the up and down roller coaster of success. Just because you’ve experienced a level of success, does not mean that you’ve achieved the level that is destined for you. Never stop short of your fullness.
At some point, you’ve got to go for it or leave it alone. There’s no middle ground. It’s time to take a deeper look into the patterns you’ve been living out in the personal and professional areas of your life. Then you’ve got to make a choice. A choice to keep doing what you’re doing or a choice to make a bold move and do something radically different to create a radically new and different result. If you are not willing to do this, you are simply not ready.
But if you are willing and ready to make a bold move and harness your untapped power and activate your potential…then do something NOW to anchor your decision. Don’t wait. Do it now. Make that phone call, send that email, enroll in that program, hire that coach, ask for what you want and live in your truth. Whatever action you need to take immediately to align with your decision, do it now. Stop reading…do it now.