I hope you were able to answer the questions from Part 1 of this series. Understanding that Procrastination can keep you from living your dreams should be enough to motivate you to stop doing it. But often times it’s not. Because until we find out the driving force behind why we procrastinate, we will continue on this up and down roller coaster.
Anthony Robbins says, “Every person on this earth is driven by two forces: Their need to avoid pain and their desire to gain pleasure.” These two forces drive all human behavior. So if everything we do in life is out of avoiding pain or gaining pleasure, which one motivates you?
I have another perspective. There are times when we don’t fear pain, but we fear pleasure. I realized that I was literally afraid of the pleasure.
Growing up as a fatherless daughter created enormous pain in my life. As crazy as it sounds, I had become comfortable in pain. It was the good times that I was afraid of because I didn’t believe it would last. Little did I know that this erroneous belief was causing me to delay much of my good in life through procrastination.
What I realized was I could not “will power” my way out of procrastination. And neither can you. You’ve got to get to the root cause of why you do it in the first place. Once you do this and learn the skills to heal it, transform it and transcend it, you will breakthrough it.
I want to share a four steps to help you on your way to getting that nasty little word in your life:
1. Identify what you are afraid of. Is it the need to avoid pain or is it the fear of pleasure?
2. Find out where this controlling belief was first received. I was able to retrace my belief from my fatherlessness experiences.
3. Dismantle the belief and create another one. There are many ways to let go or deconstruct a belief. I will share just one here. Affirmations are great ways to change an old belief and create a new one. Example: “I am worthy of living my dream and I no longer delay my good.”
4. Find an accountability Partner. Breaking through procrastination can be challenging and I don’t recommend you doing it alone. Find a coach or mentor who will hold you accountable for what you say you’re going to do.
You deserve to live your dreams. Never allow the fear of pain to keep you from doing anything. Because pain is inevitable in life, but suffering is choice. Pain is a part of the human journey. But you can move through pain and not allow it to prevent you from living your dreams though procrastination.
The pleasure that comes from taking action will far out weigh any pain you’ve avoided. Get accustom to the pleasures of life. Because when you finally remove that nasty little word from your life, pleasure becomes inevitable.